Is there some reason to not assume they’ll be cis and straight?
Does this change your behavior at all toward them?
It’s not like we’re out arranging marriages or setting up our kids. They’ll figure it out on their own and teaching a cis, straight boy to play baseball is no different than teaching a cis, gay boy or a trans, straight boy or trans straight girl or any other combination.
If a kid doesn’t like baseball, that just means the kid doesn’t like baseball.
I don’t know why parents need to assume anything once their kid is old enough to display agency. And sexuality doesn’t need to be assumed, parents should stay out of the sexuality of their children for the most part.
But yeah I don’t see how gender is any different than figuring out if your kid likes broccoli. Just push them a bit to experiment like you would with food. Push them to try on all types of clothes. Show them all types of movies. Buy them toys of different types. Have them make friends with kids of other genders.
Allow them to participate in activities that cross gender norms. But most importantly force nothing and go with what sticks.
I aim this particularly at parents in the US who essentially pretend that their children have little to no agency until they’re 13 or so. Give your child that agency and you’ll stop having to assume who they are at all.
Is there some reason to not assume they’ll be cis and straight? Does this change your behavior at all toward them?
It’s not like we’re out arranging marriages or setting up our kids. They’ll figure it out on their own and teaching a cis, straight boy to play baseball is no different than teaching a cis, gay boy or a trans, straight boy or trans straight girl or any other combination. If a kid doesn’t like baseball, that just means the kid doesn’t like baseball.
I don’t know why parents need to assume anything once their kid is old enough to display agency. And sexuality doesn’t need to be assumed, parents should stay out of the sexuality of their children for the most part.
But yeah I don’t see how gender is any different than figuring out if your kid likes broccoli. Just push them a bit to experiment like you would with food. Push them to try on all types of clothes. Show them all types of movies. Buy them toys of different types. Have them make friends with kids of other genders. Allow them to participate in activities that cross gender norms. But most importantly force nothing and go with what sticks.
I aim this particularly at parents in the US who essentially pretend that their children have little to no agency until they’re 13 or so. Give your child that agency and you’ll stop having to assume who they are at all.