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Sorry for your loss. So from what I understand, he was a good person, supported you and gave you practical knowledge.

Follow up question- were there any times where you felt unsafe in his company? Where you felt afraid that he might hurt you (not necessarily physically, but in other ways that would change your life for the worse)?

When you were around him, did you trust him to do the right thing in regards to your life? Could you be yourself around him, without worrying that you might offend him in some way or the other?

I think I’m repeating the same thing again and again - did you feel comfortable with him having control over your life (when you were a kid ofc, not an adult)? Were you not scared that he would hurt you? What did that trust feel like? Did you feel safe?

Hey, no, I don’t find it ironic or whatever. Ladybutterfly was trying to help, and that’s all that matters. They were kind, they cared and offered resources. That’s all that should matter.

Apologies mate didn’t click about it being men only, let me know if you want replies from women.

Oh noooooo your inputs are still very helpful, don’t worry. I still appreciate you replying haha.

I just had a slight preference for men and their dads because I figured I could relate to it better. I’ve seen dads generally being nice with their daughters, but absolute assholes to their sons (at least growing up in India). I figured that the perspectives would thus be different, that’s all.

I’m sorry you didnt get the dad all children deserve.

Thank you. At least the good part is that I don’t know how much I have missed (if I have at all). I’ve never really seen a “good dad” closely I suppose.

Have you found !dadforaminute@lemmy.world People post when they need dad style advice or a hug.

I have, but I think my childhood still haunts me here. My hatred for older men with authority prevents me from going even close to this, or even being remotely comfortable with the idea of a “dad”. It may be illogical or nonsensical, but hey… ig I need therapy for this lol ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

For those who had good dads, what is it like? Is it like having a good mom but male? Can you share the problems in your life with them? Do you really love them? If they were to not exist now, would you miss them?

I’m asking the above to men here who had “good dads”.

Sorry for the weird questions above. I could never imagine myself loving an older, authoritative male figure in my life. I think it’s like a fully blind person not being able to imagine colors? I’m not sure.

Like… Do you feel comfortable around your dad? Does it not feel confining? Like there’s this void standing next to you, consuming all of the oxygen in the room?

For those with good dads, were they humble? Did they accept their mistakes? Did you feel comfortable going to them for support?

I disagree

I disagree.

I think disabling downvotes totally for the user’s content by default would be a bad idea, because it is important for a user to know if what they are saying is unpopular.

Here’s an approach I have taken for my app (for all posts and comments).

• If downvotes are <= 5, downvotes show as 0.
• If downvotes <= 5%, downvotes show as 0.

Remember, the reasoning for this is a mere hypothesis and not results obtained from an experiment.

The 5 percent rule aims to prevent fringe opinions from downvoting. This solves issues like, “why do I have 3 downvotes on a picture of my cute puppy?”.

The 5 downvotes rule prevents downvoting bias. I have observed this happening on Reddit a lot. If a comment has 3 upvotes and 2 downvotes, people tend to downvote more (just because of the downvote counts and not the content itself). 2 downvotes in a 5 total votes sample size is too small to make any decision about the quality of content.

In my opinion, cases like these are where the downvotes serve more as a mental health destroyer rather than decentralised content moderation.

So to answer your question, I think having the current as default would be better, I.e., option “Show”. However, if you’re open to refine this even further, I would suggest the 5-5% idea.

I agree a little with the post tbh. So I generally hold pro AI views (where I admire the tech, believe it can make the future a lot better, while being against it being owned by oligarchs and for profit corpos).

When I started using Lemmy in 2023, everybody here was ABSOLUTELY AGAINST AI. Any post/comment mentioning AI in a slightly positive tone was downvoted to oblivion.

It was really depressing to see stuff like this, because the concept of downvoting on Lemmy and irl works very differently I suppose. No one irl just randomly shows up, shows you a thumbs down and leaves, right? Most conversations like these offline tend to be a lot more developed than a “thumbs down”. In my experience, people offline are also a lot less meaner compared to online, as they are talking to a real human being rather than a profile picture.

I suppose this platform makes you a little thick skinned too. Sometimes you have to say, “I am right, even if this large group of people thinks I am wrong” and accept that sometimes the majority does not share your opinion, no matter how correct you think it is.

Now about disabling downvotes for your own post- I’m not sure if that’s a good idea. Doing so prevents getting feedback from others. There are times where I have been a dick (mostly unintentionally). The amount of downvotes told me that what I said was wrong, and I needed to do better. If downvotes were disabled, then I wouldn’t have access to this feedback.