Mama told me not to come.

She said, that ain’t the way to have fun.

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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • My apologies.

    In the west, we have an informal concept called “wife approval factor,” which is how supportive your wife would be about something. Then there’s the idea of “a happy wife, a life” and “if momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy,” so it’s in the husband’s interest to keep the wife happy.

    I thought this was pretty universally true. I have coworkers from very different parts of India (one Muslim from the north, the other Hindu from the very south), and if we have a surprise work-provided lunch, they’ll eat the one they brought from home at the end of the day so their wives don’t get mad at them not eating the lunch they prepared. So even in a very patriarchal society, they’ll still go out of their way to keep their wives happy.

    It’s not that women call shots (men get away with a lot of nonsense here), the “permission” is largely about keeping the wife happy.