That’s all good but why does it sound like you’re punishing yourself by taking a pay cut and working 16 hour days? Can’t you get on disability? You can for example be 20% disabled or 40%. This will allow you to work normal hours, have a normal income and extra rights and benefits. You might want to call your municipality and ask what’s possible and get informed.
I am speaking from a German perspective, I’m not informed on how it works within your context.
But I imagine you must have something along those lines too. Obviously there are disabled people, and if those receive benefits, then what is halfway between that and not being disabled? Or is it black and white?
And it isn’t just about finances. It is also about housing and work. For example there is special housing built for people who need to live in an accessible place, say on the ground floor in the city. And larger companies are motivated to hire disabled people. I’m not sure how, perhaps through tax breaks or perhaps they are even legally obligated to have n posts for disabled people.
If your system does not provide for your needs, you might consider moving. Didn’t you say you are a coder or something? That’s an easy green card.