I’m coming from /all with no knowledge of star trek or any of those characters. After reading the whole thing I kinda understand where this opinion was coming from, though I disagree with it.

Their intention was to say it’s homophobic to call a man gay just because of how he acts with another man. This is because homophobic people tend to call out straight folks as gay all the time just because they don’t act macho enough or some shit.

There is some truth to what they were claiming, but as I understood it the things that made you call this character gay were not his actions and mannerisms but for his apparent attraction to another character. Plus at no point you used that characterization as a negative thing.

It’s not homophobic to simply think someone might be gay. It would be if they explicitly identified themselves as straight, or if you had only homophobic reasons to think they are. This was not the case here and this person was reacting to every comment by interpreting them in the absolute worst possible way.