You inferred “be weird to them”, which was nowhere in my jokey comment. Remind me where we are on the “people should enjoy things” to “walk around like emotionless drones” scale? Don’t ogle, be weird to, or make people feel uncomfortable in public?? Yeah. That should go without saying, but of course some people do need to hear it. So don’t do that.

But if you’re a male, you’re probably very visually-oriented and notice these things. I check out men and women, almost as a reflex. I’m straight, and it’s not a sexual thing, I just see it all. So if you put a painting, a sunset, a topless person, or a flower in front of me, I’m going to look at it. The key is to appreciate it subtly and without making anyone uncomfortable. I’m sorry if this sounds incel-y, but I guarantee it’s true for most men…