So a murderer gets replies and I couldn’t even get a match before I gave up, sounds about right lmao
Step 1: be attractive
Step 2: don’t be unattractive
Unironically this. Tinder is built in such a way that it makes appearance count far more than it does in almost any other environment. Add to that that there’s a huge disproportion between male and female users. For most people, Tinder is just a miserable experience.
I was married before any of these apps became available, so I’ve never experienced them. How do people deal with the Instagram filter effect? I’m assuming everyone is using every filter they can for their profile pictures. So what happens when you actually meet someone in real life without all those filters? Does everyone just flee in terror at the arrival of their date?
Yes. That’s pretty much what I would do. Flee.
It’s a giant waste of time for everyone. It’s honestly horrible and I wish there was a way to seriously penalize people who do that. I’d say >80% of the girls use filter effect. I can’t tell guys since I don’t look at guy profiles. Though, guys would have better effect taking a pic in front of a random Porsche parked on the street and lie about their height than using filters.
You can tell people are using filters most of the time once you’ve seen enough. Lot of them are pretty obvious. And some of them are completely obvious as it still has the filter’s name literally on the photo.
I would absolutely prefer to match on below avg girl with real face than hot girl with fake filter face. With real photos, I know what I’m getting into, and found them to be much more down to earth as well.
It’s not just the filters, how photogenic you are also has a huge effect there can be a massive difference between what you see on the tinder pics and what’s in real life and it goes both ways, as in it can be much better but also much worse
That is indeed the rule.
I couldn’t even get conventionally unattractive people to respond lol
I mean could I be the problem? Sure, I hate myself more than any person that exists or ever has existed lol
It is more nuanced.
I’m what you would consider handsome, until you take a picture of me. Then I look just fucked, I don’t know what it is about my face but it has to be in motion.
You might just be better in person. Don’t know, but I think it’s all about perspective. No one will like you if you can’t find a way to like yourself.
You likely don’t know how to take pictures. There was one “coach” that I’ve seen who basically said take 100 selfies a day to get skilled at taking pictures of yourself. As well as when taken by someone else. That way you know what poses, angles and expressions work and don’t work for you. There’s obviously more about it, but point is that everything needs practice, and a lot of it.
Is it odd that I feel weird practicing taking pictures of myself? What you’re saying makes perfect sense, I just feel grimy in the doing.
It’s normal socialization into the puritanical slave cult mentality which dominates popular culture, men especially aren’t allowed to be seen to care about appearance while simultaneously being heavily judged for any deviation from the accepted norms.
I think it’s actually a radical act against the established patriarchy to take the time to learn to look your best in selfies and to pose for pictures. Learn your body, use beauty products, think about what outfits suit you and what they say about you.
At the risk of doxing myself, I share a uncommon name with a serial murderer. I’m not a serial murderer. So if you googled me, you can ignore that.
This is the first thing that came to mind.
One of my female cousins shares a full name with a male pornstar.
And you found that out when you were looking for your cousin’s porn?
Rhonda Jeremy
Don’t change your name, it’s the other guy who sucks.
He’s dead too, so there’s that!
Did…did you kill him?
“She had asked: What is he? A friend or an enemy?"
“The alethiometer answered: He is a murderer."
“When she saw the answer, she relaxed at once. He could find food, and show her how to reach Oxford, and those were powers that were useful, but he might still have been untrustworthy or cowardly. A murderer was a worthy companion. She felt as safe with him as she’d done with Iorek Byrnison the armoured bear"
Good grief Emily, just tell us how the date went.
it was to die for
He…killed it!
You passed up a date with NFL MVP holder of the record for the single-season yards-per-game average at 143.1 and a famous actor, OJ Simpson?
allegedly*
IF I PASSED UP A DATE
My neighbor just realized he rented out his house to a guy who is under investigation for multiple murders. He found out when cops kept showing up looking to question him and the neighbors called to notify him. I simply googled his tenant’s name and all the news stories, criminal records and mug shots came up, so I guess the landlord was just a dumbass.
Do you think someone thats “under investigation” deserves to be homeless?
Look up “crime free housing” it’s disgusting. It’s a way to have landlords evict the entire household based on an arrest. The main website
http://www.crime-free-association.org/about_crime_free.htm
Is an absolute fever dream of nonsense. The guy who pioneered the idea needs to be locked away.
Not only is it a sick idea, it makes no sense. If someone is really dangerous, then they will go to prison after they are tried and convinced. Why should everyone in their home get evicted because of them?
Thanks for the info. Its crazy to me how many people regularly completely disregard the concept of “innocent until proven guilty” like its not one of the, if not THE most important thing in our legal system.
